Do women seem bored when they talk to you?
Stop and pay attention because it may not be you–it might be…
Your boring topics.
Do you know what women talk about?
When I talk to men about this subject, one thing that keeps popping up is that many men feel that the things they’re interested in aren’t necessarily the topics to talk to women about. Perhaps you are into boy stuff, like computer games or IT and programming. These aren’t things you can generally start a conversation with that will interest women. A lot of men feel they don’t really have a lot of things they can talk about with women, especially things that would interest them both. And I’ve got to say, I felt exactly the same way. When I first moved to the city, none of the interests I was into or the things I liked were topics to talk to women about; certainly not the attractive ones. I felt a real lack of confidence when I’d look at women who were perhaps models or could be one easily. They had a very fashionable and popular aura surrounding them. I just had no idea of the things that interested them, or what they liked or talked about.
Educate yourself about what women talk about.
I really felt out of my depth with topics to discuss with women, and that stopped me dead in my tracks from approaching them at all. Although I made a big deal about it in my own head at the time, what I’ve learned now is that to learn about topics that were of interest to women wasn’t that difficult. I was surprised it didn’t take me very long at all to start understanding the sort of things women were into. I should mention, before I begin telling you what they are interested in, you don’t need to actually like what women interested in; you just need to know a bit about the subject, in order to use conversation topics with women at your disposal.
Learn about fashion…
Women might be really into fashion, and you don’t need to become a fashion expert to know everything about style. Or be able to do your own color analysis. What you need to do is have a very basic understanding of it. It might be something as simple as your buying one woman fashion magazine. I guarantee if you read one of those, you’ll have enough information to be able to talk about the subject lightly with any subsequent women you come across. They’re not going to expect you to know all the brands, designers, and latest trends, but when you have just a very basic interest and understanding, then you’ve got a conversation starter and you’re off and running. I highly recommend to just focus on getting a very superficial and light understanding of the topics that are of interest to women, such as fashion, events, social topics, friends, family, and you’ll soon have plenty of topics to talk to women about that will keep them interested.
Learn about dating…
Women talk about all these topics a lot; even the topic of dating, and in men in general. Men interest women as well, for which we should count ourselves very lucky. It could be as simple as simple buying a copy of “Cleo” or “Cosmopolitan” from a magazine stand. I didn’t realize when I first moved to the city that it was so easy. I was constantly struggling to think of topics to talk to women about, and I didn’t realize how easy it would be to figure it out. I didn’t have to actually know too much; I just had to have a basic understanding of some of their interests, which would be enough to gain their interest in me.
Here is list of famous people who were SHY but didn’t let it stop them from living their life to its fullest potential:
- George Harrison — The “Quiet Beatle,” this shy guy changed music forever. http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Harrison
- Harrison Ford – - One of my favorite actors from Star Wars – Can you be both sexy and shy? http://www.thespiannet.com/actors/F/ford_harrison/index.shtml
- Jim Carey — Yes, pretty hard to believe, right? He had no friends and was painfully shy as a youngster. http://www.geocities.com/jimcarreyfanjt/bio.html
- Neil Armstrong — He may have been shy, but he was the first man ever on the moon. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/national/longterm/space/armstrong1.htm
- Robert De Niro — One of my favorite actors – you wouldn’t believe what things he did to overcome shyness. http://www.thespiannet.com/actors/D/deniro_robert/index.shtml.
- Tom Cruise — This world famous actor and sex symbol struggled with both shyness and dyslexia as a child. http://www.tiscali.co.uk/entertainment/film/biographies/tom_cruise_biog.html
You don’t need to be an expert…
I really had it in my head that I somehow had to become an expert in all areas of interest to women, but that simply wasn’t true. When you becoming more socially confident, it really is advantageous to get some mentors. When you remove all shyness completely, you’ll never have a problem figuring out what topics to talk to women about again. You will have women searching you out, because they think you’re such a fascinating conversationalist. Really, my biggest tip is let them do a lot of the talking, nod your head and act interested, throwing in a bit of odd bit information every now and then that lets them know you understand where they’re coming from. If the people I referenced above can do it, then what is stopping you?
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