You may have had little experience with women throughout your life, or you may have had a long dry spell since your last girlfriend, or you may have had a lot of short-term success with women that hasn’t translated into any sort of long term, committed relationship or provided the type of companionship a man gets from his girlfriend. Either way, you realize you want a girlfriend. To want a girlfriend is a sentiment that is extremely common among men.
Even though the stereotype for our gender is that we want as little to do with commitment as possible and would rather sleep with eight different women in a week than sleep with one woman eight times in that same week, many men, just like women, want the companionship that comes from a committed relationship – having someone to hold hands with as you walk through town or to put your arm around when you are seeing a movie, having someone to go out on a date with on Friday night, someone to kiss on New Years Eve or before bed, and someone to claim as your own – and also simply want to be loved, appreciated, and taken care of.
If you do come to realize that you want a girlfriend, the first thing to do is figure out the biggest obstacle preventing you from having one; chiefly, if you are either bad with women entirely, bad at forming connections with women (even if you are good at attracting them and getting them into bed), or simply cannot get over a particular woman. This will help you figure out what to do differently and give you an idea of where to start.
In any case, the thing to do above all is give yourself as many opportunities as you can to meet a girlfriend. If you find yourself always at home by yourself or with family, or always hanging out with the same friends that don’t bring you anywhere near women, or always doing the same activities, etc, you should seriously consider trying to branch out and give yourself the opportunity to meet new people. If you are still getting over someone this is even more important, and you might have to force yourself to leave your house, stop sulking, and start talking to other girls again. If you do have a lot of experience with hooking up, you might want to consider the environments you are meeting these women in. If they are fairly trashy bars or clubs, you might want to consider hanging out at more respectable places where the women might be more along the lines of what you are looking for.
Besides this, the most important thing to do if you want a girlfriend is to pay as much attention to a woman as possible. Notice every detail you can about her, and bring that up when you compliment her. Remember things she tells you she likes and get them for her (and remember what she doesn’t like and avoid those.) Remember what she says so she knows you care about her. This will make her feel special, loved, and appreciated, and will make her more likely to be attracted to you and more likely to want to be with you for more than just a night. If you treat her like she is incredibly special and irreplaceable to you, she will be much more likely to treat you in the same way.