What women REALLY want from men is one of the top 10 questions we receive.
I have included one guy’s question on seeking advice, but basically, they all are wanting answers to an age old problem that seem to plague men everywhere. What the hell do women really want?
Dear Vin,
It seems like no matter what I try, whether it’s one technique or another, that women just don’t find me attractive. I’m starting to feel very lonely. What are they looking for and why am I having so much trouble?
Paul from Texas
Feeling alone? Adding value to your life will add a shine that no woman can resist.
Paul, just by the way you appear in your letter, it seems like you do not have much to give. I am just being honest and blunt here, but you seem like the sort of person that does not value yourself. You said that women just do not find you attractive. It seems to me that you don’t find yourself attractive.
It is important that you view yourself as someone of value that has a lot to give. Unless you feel that you genuinely have a lot to offer, you will always be in the situation where women will not want you. They will pick up on your lack of self-confidence before you even speak, or they will pick up on it shortly after your conversation begins.
It is important that you value yourself.
Do things that add value to your life. Let’s say you’re a software engineer. This doesn’t leave much time for a night life, because most of you are working at night in front of the computer. But, there is spare time in your life, so find it and use it. You should be filling up your spare time with activities that interest you.
If you don’t have a clue on what interest you, then go out and venture and experiment on things which are new. You can look in a magazine and look for any kind of group activity and just randomly select a few. Look in your local paper and find activities that are going on in your city, and go.
These things all add value to yourself. The more that you believe in yourself, the more beautiful you feel. The more beautiful you feel, the more confidence people will pick up in your body language. This is what women really need, is men who are confident and can conquer the world.
It is not a coincidence that the happiest people are people who are confident, they just feel great and shine. These are the people that attract other people. Happiness is contagious, and people like being around guys who exude happiness.
Paul, I would like to recommend Dominant Sexual Power, which is a great product for many of the topics I believe would help you. This product deals with general confidence, conquering loneliness by adding value to your life, and ways to come out of your shell and become an interesting guy that would attract women.
What do you mean by value? How do I have more to offer?
In order to be that person who has a lot to offer, you need to invest in yourself. When I say things like go out and do activities other than work, the reason I say this is that you need different threads to your being where you have the ability to converse comfortably, and ultimately this leads to having more things to enjoy in your life.
Take yoga, for example. If you know a little bit about mediation, or a little bit about cuisine, fine food, wine, or just dealing with all sorts of alcohol and liquor, you have so much interesting topics to talk about. Just having enough interesting things to talk about creates value.
Since you are knowledgeable, you know something that others may not know. This creates value to other people. Anything that you can give with an amount of authority is of value. What women want in a man is one who respects himself. That don’t want someone who is wimpy, someone who is always looking to others for gratification. You must add value in your life so that you have the ability to gratify women.
What can I do to add value to my life?
Start by writing down on a piece of paper exactly what your Monday to Sunday looks from 5:00 am to 11:00 pm. Look at your whole week. Write it down on a piece of paper so that you can clearly see what your whole week looks like.
Now, think to yourself and try to be honest as possible. Do I live in an interesting life? Do I live a life which creates interest in others? Am I mysterious, fascinating, or interesting? If the answer is no, then you need to find interesting things that interest you and will interest people. This creates value in yourself, and the way you see yourself. And this reflects on the way people see you.
Once you have identified exactly what your week looks like, start filling in the blocks, those free times that you have. It could be anything. Pick three random things that comes to your mind that you think you could be interested in.
It could be learning to study engineering, or finding out how to sharpen knives, learning how to cook steaks, any kind of knowledge that you can use to invest in yourself. Fill your extra time with interesting things.When you add interesting aspects to your life, you’ll find your confidence level increasing day by day.
When you find interesting things to add to your life, you will become an interesting person. That’s really all that women really want; someone who is interesting, knowledgeable, exudes self-confidence, and are fun to be with. Guys who have a light about them and it shines. Go find your light and let it shine.
