Get all the hot, sexy benefits without being tied down (unless you’re into that).
Just follow these simple rules to keep it fun and casual…
Be a touchy person.
You must be comfortable with the idea of being a touchy person. Make a change in your life where you go from someone who is not comfortable with touch to someone who incorporates it with everyone they meet. The following steps were incredibly helpful for me when I made this transition.
1. Touch early.
Make sure that you touch a girl as soon as you start speaking to her. There are safe zones on anyone’s body that you can touch, without coming off as being too intrusive. The back of the elbow is one. The shoulder and the top part of the arm are others. Make sure you are talking when you touch. Do this smoothly and naturally, so that you do it without noticing it yourself. You want your touches to fly under the radar. You don’t want the other person to be consciously aware of what you are doing.
I often see guys make common mistakes. For example, they look at where they are touching, which is a dead giveaway. This may make the person they are touching feel awkward. Another mistake is when guys stop talking when they touch, which has the exact same impact. A third mistake is when guys become robots. They find a hot spot on a girl and keep touching her in that exact same spot over and over. Avoid this when you’re trying to pick up a girl, by contrasting your touches. Change the locations where you are touching a girl. Change how long you maintain any individual touch. Lastly, vary the pressure that you use when touching. You will need to practice to get good at this.
2. Become comfortable with touching women.
I took Salsa classes so that I could dance with a girl on the dance floor and trap her (so that I could get her to grind on me). However, the bonus from these classes was that I also became very comfortable with touching and even holding women. The classes required us to switch dance partners, which would include twenty to thirty ladies. I got to hold their hands and their bodies. Eventually, it became weird not to touch and hold them.
The class became a great training ground for touching. For example, there were times when the instructor would stop the class to go over a specific move. However, I would continue to hold the girl’s hand. I became comfortable with that idea. The other advantage of Salsa dancing was that I learned how to lead girls, which is an important technique and strategy.
3. Escalate touching.
You must escalate your touching when you’re trying to attract a girl, so that you are moving to more intimate zones on the girl’s body. There are great resources on this blog for how you can do this. When you get good at touching, it will not matter if the girl is someone you know well or have just met. It won’t even matter if you’re trying this on beautiful women or if you want to attract mature women – it works. You will be able to communicate with her without speaking a single word. The communication will be subtle, but will reach her on a deep level. Without her consciously being aware of it, you will communicate to her that you are someone she should consider being sexual with. Physical escalation is definitely one thing that guys should work on to improve their overall success with women.
Do you have questions about women and touch? Ask in the comments below and I’ll answer each one personally.
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